Over the past 40 years, I have been one of the library profession’s biggest advocates for children’s services in public libraries.
My advocacy for making children a budgetary priority has nothing to do with children and everything to do with the library. Quite simply children are the catalysts for getting the whole community involved in a library. I have seen this proven over and over again. If you want a successful library, you need to cater to children.
It’s a very important topic. In fact no topic is more important for public libraries right now. As a result, I will devote more posts to it in the future.
Today, however, the topic is children, pure and simple. Children are unruly, loud, frenetic, demanding, obstreperous, cantankerous, and cacophonous. They have not mastered or even learned the boundaries of civilized adult behavior.
As a result, many adults prefer the Hallmark concept of children (aren’t they cute) to the Dennis the Menace reality of children (aren’t they unruly). In certain places like a church, a hospital, or a library, the unruliness of children can be acutely problematic.
Sometimes this unruliness requires a bit of patience and a sense of humor. This past Sunday, a toddler interrupted Father Leo’s sermon with loud wailing. I counted five older adults who turned around and looked scornfully at the child’s mother. Father Leo saved the day by smoothly steering his sermon toward the concept of prayer. “Prayer takes many forms,” he intoned, “from the quiet reflective thoughts of the monastic hermit to the loud wailing of an infant. In this case the infant in the 3rd row is petitioning God to bring my sermon to closure. The child’s prayer has been answered. Now let us all thank God.”
But many adults are not nearly as tolerant as Father Leo. Many of these adults are library users who go to the library for some peace and quiet, and here is where a clash can occur. Children engage in several distracting activities including …wailing, whining, running, jumping, and pulling books off the shelves. This can be very disruptive to adult patrons who are trying to read, study, write, or sleep.
As a result, some libraries have rules prohibiting children from certain parts of the adult library. A couple of days ago when I was relating a story about my two year old granddaughter Sophia and her proclivity to make brilliant book selections for me, I casually mentioned that the two of us had been cordially asked by a librarian to leave the adult periodicals room of our local library, a library which I absolutely love. Apparently, they have an unposted rule that pre-school children are not allowed in that sanctum sanctorum. I was embarrassed, felt badly, and never returned to the periodicals room with a child in tow again. I do respect and understand the reason for the rule.
In the comment section of that post, a very, very interesting issue evolved. Unwinders went from discussing my book review of Forbidden Fruit to discussing the issue of children in the adult area of the library. There was an irony to this debate because I had quoted a passage from Forbidden Fruit in which it was stated that there was a time when women were prohibited from entering “male only” parts of the library because women were considered frivolous and distracting.
The unwinder debate started with this comment:
- “Will, I am really disappointed to learn you are one of the problem modern adults who think that the library manners are not meant for YOUR granddaughter. I may be saying good-bye to this blog as I don’t keep company with those who think that achieving quiet libraries is only done by having OTHER people’s children and grandchildren follow rules. I compliment that library for HAVING rules and for those librarians having the chutzpah to stand up to a librarian. Please, Will, say you won’t do this again. Ever.”
While, this comment tends to be rather critical of me, there is much in it that I absolutely agree with, and I’m very pleased the unwinder had the courage to post it. Parents, grandparents, and nannies should be responsible for their children. I was at fault for taking Sophia into the periodicals room but the library should have posted the rules.
That comment then led to this comment from another unwinder:
- “Why should kids be excluded from any part of a public library? They are part of the public, and will be voting on library bills all too soon. This is a public library, not a college library where your argument might make sense. This is rank discrimination against kids. Yes, kids are noisy. So are a lot of the adult population, especially, hard of hearing adults. And I see legal issues too. Remember several years ago when a homeless guy successfully sued a public library in the east I think. New Jersey? The librarians had tried to keep him out because he looked and smelled rotten as I recall. I’ll take a little kid dressed in a decent way over a homeless guy with likely mental issues. But the law says we have to have the homeless guy. I just saw your next comment. I think one reason they don’t have the rule posted is likely they know one good lawsuit by a disgruntled adult with a kid will be the end of that rule. It is POLITE of Will to avoid the periodical room.”
I can also see the merit in this comment and am equally glad that the unwinder had the courage to post it. This is the type of dialog that really motivates me to do this blog everyday. Thanks, unwinders.
Question of the day: Which side of the issue are you on? Is there a middle ground? Have at it.